“Signs, Signs, Everywhere There’s Signs!”

October 28, 2017

“Why didn’t I see that coming?” “How’d that happen?” “Why didn’t anyone tell me about this?” I was driving the other day and while stopped at a red light I looked over at the car next to me and saw a mother in the driver’s seat showing flash cards to her teenage son. As the mom continued to show him the flash cards, he continued to stare out the passenger seat window at the sky.  She began to shake them at him.  Fed up and visibly frustrated, she threw the cards in the back of the car by the time the light turned green!  Clearly this had been going on for a while and clearly she was angry that the boy was ignoring what she was trying to show him. What struck me about this scene was that this happens to us every day.  People try to show us something, tell us something, make us aware of something – and how often do we not listen? The reality is that we more than often hear what we want to hear, or worse yet, aren’t present when the person tells us something that might just help us avert disaster – whether that is to our career, our finances, a relationship or our reputations. I’m not suggesting we take every bit of advice from every person with whom we encounter.  However, I do suggest that we identify the core people in our lives whose insight and feedback matter to us.  These are the people who will risk telling us what we need to hear, not what we want to hear because they truly care about us. These are the people who will show us the flash cards while we are, perhaps, looking out the passenger seat window.  They may even shake them to get our attention. Ok, so here’s your sign … will you be that teenager and eventually have the flash cards thrown to the back of the car? Or, will you stop, be present and see and listen to what signs are being shown to you? As with most things in life, the choice is yours! For some additional thoughts on the power of being present, click here to read one of my favorite stories about my experience with Lenny Kravitz!      

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Lenny Kravitz ‘Throwin’ Some Ass’ Into Reputation Management

August 25, 2016

Lenny Kravitz Throwin’ Some Ass into Reputation Management:: Several years back, Lenny Kravitz was named the celebrity Grand Marshal for the NASCAR Sprint Cup All-Star Challenge at Charlotte Motor Speedway. The All-Star event is a no-holds-barred, winner-take-all race among drivers – this race is about the money and bragging rights! I was running Sprint’s marketing communications team for its NASCAR series sponsorship and on at this particular event, I was ‘on point’ to be with Lenny for various media interviews. His main role at the race was to give the most famous command in motorsports, “Gentlemen, start your engines!” Well, in today’s races, it is “Drivers, start your engines!” We spent most of the day together between meeting drivers, media interviews and filming promotional videos for NASCAR. We stood on the infield grass near the Start/Finish line waiting for his ‘moment’ and joked around as the drivers were being introduced – he has a hilarious sense of humor! Lenny took in the amazing fly-over and watched the fans go crazy at the sight and sound of the F-15s as their afterburners lit up the summer evening sky. A few minutes later, Lenny leans over to me and says, “hey Mike, let me ask you something. You’ve been around this for a while. How do you think I should do this? What do you think they’d like?” It took me a second to realize what he was asking and then realize that this was a Grammy Award-winning artist/performer asking me my opinion about how to say, “Gentlemen, start your engines!” It was all very bizarre at the time and I didn’t give it much thought, or perhaps I would have answered differently. But in that moment, standing face to face with Lenny Kravitz, this was the professional advice I gave him. “Lenny, you saw how crazy the fans got with the fly-over, right?” He nodded his head, saying, “yeah.” “OK, then, you’ve got to throw some ass into it and just give it to them.” My parents would have been proud. A decade and a half spent in motorsports PR and my advice to Lenny is to ‘throw some ass into it’. Brilliant. But, it worked. He laughed, put his arm on my shoulder and said, “I got that.” Reputation Lesson: There will be times in your life when people are honestly looking for your advice. They are seeking this from you, more than likely, because they value what you will tell them based on your professional position or your personal experiences. Regardless of why you are being asked, it’s imperative that you understand your impact (positive or negative) on the person that is seeking your counsel as well as the impact (positive or negative) it will have on your reputation. 4 Tips To Give Solid Advice And Build Your Reputation: 1. Slow down and be in the moment :: this is tough in our society these days, but it’s a clear sign of respect to the other person. Make sure they know you are in the moment and that you are genuinely interested in helping them. An easy way to do […]

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